NrFive

To keep the congregation pure and true, people that don´t follow the rules, are excomunicated. The rules are absolute, and if you persist in denying the rules, showing no remorse, you will get kicked out.
Actually, I don´t find this especially strange.
This is the same as with any organized group of people. If you don´t follow the rules set by the group, they have the right to kick you out from the group. You have the free will to do what you want, but you still have to take the consequenses for it.

But is there any difference between beeing excomunicated from a religion, then from a political or social group?
Yes, there is.

The first difference is that in a religion, the rules are supposed to come from God. We´re talking about divine rules here. Nothing you´d easily could argue with. You have no say in the matter. Eiter you follow the rules, or you leave. And while they want you to belive that it´s God that is doing the excomunication, this is not true. The decision is taken by people. People that do misstakes, that are corrupt or just plain humans.
"note:" This is not an argument for or agains the justness in my excomunication. Im only trying to see and write down all the facts

The second difference is that a religion often shapes large parts of your life. Your friends, family and many social things are conected through your religion. Many religions is so powerful beacuse they give people the feeling of belonging to something, and they matter to God. As with an excomunication, all this is ripped away from you.

Third difference is a continuation from nr two. And this is not always true either, depends on the religion. And this is true in my cause.  When family decides that they will have nothing to do with you. It´s debateble if the bible condone this kind of rules, but some religious groups have decided that it is God´s will. I have had none to very little contact with several parts of my family, including my father. And this sarifice pains me more than anything else.

I know of people that killed themself after beeing excomunicated because they couldnt handle the emotional pressure.
Im not saying that the only reason was the excomunication, but it could have been what made them tip over.
I know of the pain and the pressure of beeing excomunicated. I hade hope, and could see the light at the end of the tunnel. It was an emotional rollercoaster, but I learned something and got out of it with both feet on the ground.

A religion have a responsibility for its congregation. The people give their hope and lives to God, and God promises them that he/she will guard over them. By excomunicating them and cutting of all contact with them, the religion fails to sheperd over its weak or damaged herd.